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While we were in Portland during our honeymoon, we went to see three houses: Where I was born, where my mom grew up, and Pittock Mansion. Pittock Manson was the home of Henry Pittock and his family, the man who practically built Portland. It is just up the road from my mom’s childhood home and built on 46 acres. It’s currently a museum, that was unfortunately closed when we visited, and my mom, her sisters, and brother used to go up the hill to play there growing up. It was really nice to be able to see the area my mom grew up in, and be able to send her some photos of what everything looks like now.

I am so glad that I got the chance to see these places that are so special for our family; my mom says they all still look the same! If it wasn’t such a creepy thing to do, I would have knocked on the doors to see if I could go in. Since that would make me a crazy person, and since I have no memory of either place anyway, I decide it would be just fine to take pictures from the street.




// Dress + Boots: Thrifted via Crossroads Trading Co // Flower Crown: Urban Outfitters //

Ok, maybe a bit closer than the street. To be fair, this house looked like it was vacant. I was only hoping the neighbors weren’t peaking through their windows.

I was born upstairs in this house! My mom was able to get down to the car, and apparently I wasn’t having any of that and they had to go back inside so I could have my way; showing my stubborness from the very first day!

We went to my mom’s childhood home next! Oddly enough, I wanted to be able to see the inside of this house more than I did the one the was born and lived in. Unfortunately, this one was definitely occupied and I could have sworn I saw someone watching us from the kitchen window, so I tried to be as discrete as possible.

Or super obvious.



Just up the street from where my mom grew up is Pittock Mansion. This place was gorgeous! I actually had no idea the home was preserved as a museum, with all the original early 20th century furniture and decor, until we got there. The top of the hill has the most beautiful view of the city!


Super creep.



I can see why so many people still visit Pittock Mansion. There are picnic tables set up for people to sit and look at the view. I am hoping our next visit is not as far off as my last one (I had not been to Portland since I was 13) and I am already making a mental note to go back to the mansion.




Out of everywhere we went, Portland felt the most rushed. Most likely because it was the last city we were visiting and as a trip is begining to end, time always seems to rush by much too quickly for me. I start getting sad about the end of the trip before it’s even over!

I totally consider myself a California girl, afterall we moved when I was three months old, but I have such a special bond with Portland! I still have family there, who we were lucky enough to see while we were there, and my mom’s love of the city has really rubbed off on me. It must be why I prefer rain to sunshine!


Is it just me or have I lost my blog flow? I haven’t been consistant with everything going on lately. I feel like I don’t even know how to write anymore! If you call a little ‘ol style blog “writing”. What else would you call it? Blurbing seems appropriate. I feel like I don’t know how to blurb anymore.

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We are back from our honeymoon! It is actually bittersweet; we were exhausted from traveling the past 10 days so we were happy to be home, and at the same time it was such a great vacation and we have not had many vacations that are just the two of us before. I am planning on sharing photos from each city we went to, but until I have the time to get all those together, I wanted to throw up a quick outfit post!

 The last day of our trip, we were in Portland and we found a really fun scavenger hunt of the city on Urban Adventure Quest. It was a really fun way to see the city. It took us about five and a half hours, including coffee and lunch breaks. We walked the whole time except for one bus ride, and with all the food we had been eating the entire week, literally ALL. THE. FOOD., it felt nice to be so active for an entire day. To get to each different city landmark in downtown Portland, we had to solve puzzels and clues and then complete challenges based on each location. We must be super nerdy because it was definitely a highlight of of the trip and we not only got to see the tourist spots, we found other places along the way to spend some time at!

The Pacific Northwest was still pretty warm while we were there, we only had a day or so of clouds and very light rain in both Seattle and Portland. The day of our scavenger hunt started very chilly, so I layered up. With all the walking, I ended up stripping down and layering back up during our breaks.




 // Tee: Nordstrom Rack // Plaid Shirt: Forever 21 // Jeans + Jacket: Urban Outfitters // Hat: Thrifted via Crossroads Trading Co // Boots: Thrifted via Thrift Town //

Urban Adventure Quest has scavenger hunts for a ton of major cities, and again, being the nerd I am, I am looking forward to participating in one for Los Angeles as well as my hometown of Sacramento! You can purchase it anytime and play whenever you want, with any amount of people!

My mom was born and raised in Portland, and I was actually born there. We used to visit each summer when I was younger, but I had not been since I was 13, so it was really nice to be able to go and see the city as an adult. I love how unique each neighborhood is, even just a few blocks away the look and feel can change completely. We got to go see my mom’s childhood home and the house that I was born in (I was so excited to enter the world that I wouldn’t let my mom make it to the hospital!). Portland was a really special spot for me on this trip!




I was made in Oregon!


I don’t know how he puts up with me!


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Mr. and Mrs. Bender are taking off for their honeymoon tomorrow! Who are Mr. and Mrs. Bender, you ask? It is me and my new husband! It is very strange to say husband out loud still; I feel like a child playing house, like people won’t believe me. I feel really dumb admitting this, but whenever I say husband, I try to make sure the person sees my ring, even if I just fix my hair or adjust a piece of clothing. It is so silly! It took me a long time to get used to saying boyfriend, and then fiancé, and I think it may take a bit longer to get used to saying husband! Many people have asked me if it feels any different, and I actually feel a bit bad saying that it doesn’t. It does not feel different, yet. I think once we get back from the honeymoon and we get settled back into new husband-wife routine (however that may be different from a fiancé-fiancé routine, I have no idea!), it will start to feel different. We were together 8 years before we got married and lived together already, so perhaps that is why it may take a bit longer to feel “married” instead of just together.

I do like seeing that ring on his finger, though! It suits him well!

Yesterday I was with a friend of mine, who has also kind of let her blog slide a bit and we were talking about what we could do to pick it up and new things we could try and we got inspired and took outfit photos right then on her iPhone! We have decided to help each other out to keep us both accountable. Of course we make this faux pact two days before I leave for a week and a half and most likely will not be posting! Once I get back, I will hopefully have wedding photos (eek!) and honeymoon photos to share!



// Sunglasses + Flower Crown: Urban Outfitters // Top: HauteLook (Whitney Eve) // Lana Lace Kimono: c/o Cali Free // Shorts: Melrose Trading Post // Shoes + Purse: Thrifted via Crossroads Trading Co //

I’ve worn this exact outfit more than I care to admit in just the past two weeks. Hey, if there are no pictures to document it, you can wear the same thing everyday! Actually, I still do that even if there are pictures. When you’re in love, you’re in love! I received this beautiful Lana Lace Kimono from Cali Free a while ago, had could not find the right outfit to pair it with. Once I matched all these pieces together, I loved it so much, it’s all I’ve wanted to wear! I’m on a mission to be able to style it a few more times because I love it so much!

I got this flower crown from Urban Outfitters for my rehearsal dinner, and just want to wear it everyday. It makes getting dressed so fun!




Also fun? Shooting outfit photos with a friend who actually gets it! It can be super awkward shooting with someone who doesn’t quite understand what a style or outfit blog is all about or why you would need so many pictures of yourself.


Photos by the lovely Michele!


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Hi friends! I know it has been a while since I have posted and I was originally blaming it on my upcoming wedding. Now that the wedding has come and gone, I won’t have much an excuse for the quiet. I will be starting up posting again very soon!

My wedding was amazing, exactly as we had planned. It was a day, a long weekend really, full of love, laughter and joy and I wish I could relive it over and over – in slow motion! It was so special that I was able to have all my friends and family from all over come together in one place; something I wish could happen much more often!

I cannot wait to share photos; waiting to get them from the photographers is driving me insane!

If you follow me on Facebook or Twitter, you may have seen that I shared this video already, but I cannot let this gem be unseen. David surprised me on our wedding day with a Backstreet Boys mash up dance performance! If this is not the first time you have read this blog, you’ll know that I am a HUGE Backstreet Boys fan. I have been a fan for more than half of my life and seen them more times than I can count! David, on the other hand, could care less about them, but since he cares about me so much, he planned this performance and practiced with his wedding party for months, all while being able to keep it a secret from me! I usually do not like surprises, but this was the most amazing surprise and I still have not been able to stop watching it!

My reaction was priceless!


A new standard has been set! Not only do I need to brag about my husband (HUSBAND!!), but I need to brag that the Backstreet Boys tweeted and posted this video to their Facebook. I’m dead.

I just wanted to share this video because it really is the most special gift I’ve ever received and the fact that so many people helped David put this together makes me continue to tear up!

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With 9 days to go, I am busy, busy, busy! I’ve been working non stop on making sure this wedding goes smoothly! I am kind of obsessed with this outfit and have been wearing it a couple times a week. Other than this, I’ve been in leggings and tank tops. There’s no need to put much effort into getting dressed when I am just sitting on the computer and the phone, planning all day!

I have been a list making, DIYing, everything down to the teensy detail busy body the past few weeks! Wedding planning is super stressful, and somehow I kind of like it. Even when I compain and say I hate it and show a bit of my bridezilla side. I am so confident that everything is going to turn out so beautifully, I cannot wait to be able to share photos and tell you all about it!

I also can’t wait for the night where I get a full night sleep and not toss and turn with my wedding induced stress.




// Top + Jeans: Urban Outfitters // Denim Vest: Thrifted via Goodwill and DIY’d // Shoes, Hat, + Necklace: Thrifted via Crossroads Trading Co //

I have only done a couple of DIYs in my life, but this is my favorite. If you count cutting the sleeves off of a denim jacket as a DIY. With my lack of expertise, I certainly do!





We are nearing the end of summer and that means starting to layer summer pieces. I love being able to wear my summer pieces just a bit longer, like this sheer top, into the fall with layering!



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Why, oh why, when I am the most busy do I feel that I want to take on even more? Is it because I become busy, check things off my list, get things done and reveal in the satisfaction of it so much that I want even more? Probably. Luckily, I know my limits and even though I have found a few more interests, I am still only focusing on getting through wedding planning and the wedding. Three weeks to go. Three. Weeks. It’s a bit mind boggling to me! What I am supposed to do and talk about after it’s over? I suppose that’s where these new found hobbies will be able to come into play!

David and I had a mid-week lunch date to, what else, talk about some wedding details! I threw on this day time little black dress from Cali Free to beat the So Cal heat.

After lunch, David thought he saw Ceelo Green walk into a restaurant and although we had already eaten, we were a bit curious to confirm his suspicions and we walked in. Once we were in and we realized it was literally us and Ceelo, we decided to save face we had to grab a drink!




// Dress: c/o  Cali Free // Shirt, Purse & Hat: Thrifted via Crossroads Trading Co // Shoes: Urban Outfitters //

I totally felt out of practice taking outfit photos! I have kind of put this little blog on the back burner the last month to really focus on getting my wedding planned. I’ve missed it! It not only gives me an excuse to get dressed, because come on, I’d live in pajamas if it was appropriate, but it’s the comradery of the blogging community that is so fun!






After lunch I spent the rest of the day running errands. Getting married reminds me that I am actually an adult and it has made me want to keep a presentable home and become more organized. My number one thing to do to feeling more organized is cleaning out my closet! I do it several times a year and of course stop by Crossroads Trading Co to sell my clothes for either a bit of cash or trade, if I have a shopping itch! Now, I don’t even have to go to Crossroads to sell my clothes! Have you heard that Crossroads now offers a Sell By Mail option? You simply request a bag from their website, fill it up with your clothes and send it back, postage free! You can still choose to receive cash or trade, and if you want the clothes that don’t sell back, you can have them send it back for a small fee, or they will donate the rest for you. It’s such a great option for those who are busy, or who may not have a Crossroads near them.

Click the photo below to request your free mail in bag from the Crossroads site!

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Mid day cocktails are definitely not a bad idea!

All photos credit of Ugly Mug Photography.

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When I posted about the Crossroads Camp 2014, I mentioned that the style counil led four DIY stations for the Crossroads managers. Beth and I led the DIY distressed denim DIY table. When I say “Beth and I”, I mean Beth because I’ve only attempted to distress denim once and was very unsuccessful. Distressing denim is probably the easiest clothing DIY and I failed. I tried to redeem myseld with Beth’s instruction and I think I did pretty well! I may have gone a bit overboard, but I think the jacket turned out really cool! When Crossroads first sent me this yellow denim jacket, I was a little wary about the color, and then I found out how amazing it pairs with navy blue, or makes black pop, but since distressing the jacket, I have fallen in love!

My mom took these photos when I was visiting home. It is way too cute watching her take outfit photos! And isn’t her garden the cutest?!



// Denim jacket: c/o Crossroads Trading Co // Top: Forever 21 // Shorts: Melrose Trading Post // Belt: Thrifted via Crossroads Trading Co // Hat: Marshalls //




I feel a bit urban cowgirl latey, and was too excited to find this belt at Crossroads the other day. You may be seeing a lot of it! I feel like this may be a repeat outfit the rest of the summer!

My mom is not a bad photographer, huh? Now I have no excuses to fall behind on outfit posts when I am in Sacramento!

Distressing denim is super easy!


  • 1. Denim piece: jeans, vest, jacket, anything you are interested in distressing
  • 2. Exacto knife
  • 3. Plastic cutting board

Technique:  Make swift incisions against the grain on the denim, wherever you want your denim to be torn. Afterwards, throw it in the washer and dryer and it should be ready to wear! The more you wear it and wash it, the looser the distressing will be. I would recommend that the first time you wash and dry the item, to do it on its own so you don’t get little pieces on other clothing.

This is what the jacket looked like after distressing and before washing. Check out Beth’s DIY tutorial on distressing denim! She is the expert!


Have you had success DIYing distressed denim? What is your favorite DIY? I would love to start DIYing reguarly!


Thanks again to my Momma for taking these photos for me!

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