The proposal

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AKA the longest post I’ve ever written.

Every girl has dreamed about the perfect proposal. Every boy has had nightmares about coming up with the perfect proposal. Bender and I are no exception.

Ever since I could remember, I have always wanted a proposal during Christmas; arguably, but not with me, I will win, the most romantic  time of the year. Unbeknownst to me, Bender, along with my mom, sister, and best friend had been plotting lying planning behind my back to pull off the perfect proposal. And did they ever succeed.

Bender came into town December 22nd to spend Christmas with me and my family. We had a couple busy days before Christmas: my friends’ annual Christmas Eve Eve party, a Christmas themed photoshoot at a Christmas treet farm (Bender’s idea), and lunch with my best friend and her mom in Dixon on Christmas Eve.

That first night, he presented me with a “Christmas Eve Eve Eve” gift, which he had never done before, but I am not one to turn down a gift. A copy of Mindy Kaling’s book – score! The next day was the day before Christmas Eve; traditionally the day that my friends and I hold our own Christmas. After getting home that night, he presented me with a “Christmas Eve Eve” gift; a new dress that he said I should wear for photos at the Christmas tree farm he found in Dixon. A little note: He has never picked out or bought clothes for me, so it did strike me as odd, but once again, I am not one to turn down a gift, especially a nice dress.

On Christmas Eve morning, I went on a run. When I got home, I took my time eating breakfast, checking blogs, and taking a shower, all while Bender tried to gently prod me into getting ready so we could “be on time” to take photos before lunch. I finally got ready, and after being turned down by my mom to join us, we were on our way. It was really cold that day, so I surprised myself by putting on the thin material dress and agreeing to trek through a giant Christmas tree farm, periodically taking off my coat for photos.




While walking through, we would stop and take photos. During photo sessions, I check the photos regularly to make sure we are getting what I need. Doing this on that day showed that Bender had no real intention of taking outfit photos of me; all the photos were out of focus, not taken when I was ready, etc. I thought he was being lazy. After barking orders at asking him to take more, and finally being satisfied on some photos next to a cute tree with a big red bow on it, we kept walking deeper into the farm. 




Bender made a comment about how the farm should have decorated trees throughout, and a couple minutes later, low and behold, we found a nice tree, decorated with faux presents under it. Of course, we had to take our photos there. Bender set up the tripod and we took one together and then he instructed me to turn around and he would take my regular walking away/back photo. At this point my coat was off, I was freezing, and Bender was taking for-ev-er setting up the camera to take the photo from behind (I would later find out he was actually setting it up for video). I became slightly antsy and I admit that I started whining because I was cold and becoming impatient that I could not turn around. In the back of my mind, I assumed I was getting a “Christmas Eve” present, to go along with the theme of him giving me other presents each night leading up to Christmas, so truthfully, that is the only reason I stayed turned around.

The next thing I know, I am allowed to turn around, and Bender is on his knee holding out a ring. From there, it is slightly blurry; figurativly and literally: tears came from no where and were blurring my vision. The first thing out of my mouth, before he uttered anything was, “Shut up.” Nice, right? After he gave his little spiel, my word vomit struck again; “Are you sure?” He was obviously taken aback and claims he cannot remember his response, but I remember him laughing and saying yes. I vigoursly shook my head yes in response to his proposal, and after he asked me to say it outloud, it was offical and neither of us remember how the ring got on my finger.

I honestly think I was in shock the rest of the day.

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After all the mushy, gooey, cheese, hug, kiss stuff, I see someone come out from behind some trees and it happens to be my best friend. I actually thought nothing weird of the fact that she was there at that moment; she’s there during all my big moments! But then her mom, my mom, and my sister all came out! They had been there early to decorate the tree, set up the faux gifts underneath, and mark the path so Bender would know how to get to the tree, ahem, the tree with the bow that I would not let him stop taking pictures of me at.

Excited with my mom and sister!


My beautiful mom!


My sister is jealous and trying to rip my ring off. Not at all staged.


My best friend and soul sister from another mister.


With Alyssa and her mom, who is like a second mom to me.


Face timing with the future in-laws.

One of the sweetest parts? Bender then cut down the tree and we took it home. We are hopefully planning on getting coasters made from it as wedding party and family gifts.


I had always wanted a Christmas proposal, and never wanted it done in public, but somehow he knew that the most imporant people in my life had to be there when it happened. The fact that they were hidden among the trees watching us is simultaneously hilarious, creepy, and awesome. Everything was perfect.

This proposal requried me to agree to a lot of things to get us to the destination, which, if you know me, sounds impossible. Bender said afterward that it was all the little “yeses” he was worried about, not the big one; Wearing the dress he bought for me, agreeing to go to lunch in Dixon (where the farm was located), turning around for a back photo, etc.

Hindsight is 20/20: A list of things I was totally oblivious to

  • The over abundance of suitcases Bender brought in town; he had one extra one for the tree decorations and gift boxes and bags
  • The constant “work” calls that took him out of the room; calls (and texts) for last minute planning
  • Alyssa posting a picture of a dress on my Facebook telling me she thought of me when she saw it and Bender gifting me that exact dress; Bender picked out several dresses and used her to see which I would like the best. He knew I would want to be dressed nicely for the proposal
  • Gifts leading up to Chistmas; he did not want it to be completely out of the ordinary when he gave me the dress and he knew that I would not dress up for our “lunch” in freezing cold weather
  • Bender’s urgency in making sure we had plenty of time at the Christmas tree farm for photos before lunch; he had never been so excited to take photos. He enjoys being able to help me with my blog, but he is never exactly super excited to take time out of our short visits to take photos
  • The fact that the Christmas tree farm was completely empty; they were closed that day but opened just for Bender’s proposal
  • My sister wanting to do my hair and nails the night before; She wanted my nails to look nice for when I would be showing off my ring
  • A fully decorated Christmas tree in the middle of a Christmas tree farm; Even after the proposal and everyone popped out of hiding, I did not know that was part of it until they told me

All in all, I am really easy to lie to and trick. Please don’t take advantage of me. Unless you are giving me the most beautiful ring I could ever hope for and presenting me with the perfect proposal.


p.s. thank you to the planning team for helping making everything happen!
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  1. this is the cutest thing ever! congratulations!!

  2. Congratulations! That was so cute, it sounded like such a perfect proposal. ;; I love the idea of a christmas proposal aw.
    -Holly x

  3. RoselyC said:

    What a beautiful proposal. Congrats again.

  4. How adorable! Congrats congrats congrats to you chica and your FIANCE!!! My first response when my husband proposed? “Are you serious?” LOL Nothing like that first reaction, huh? So happy for you!

  5. LeahS. said:

    What a thoughtful proposal! Congrats and all the best for your future together.

  6. aaaawwww such a sweet and real story, I love it! His idea of making sure the camera was filming was great. Congrats love.

  7. Soooo Hollywood. Your kids will have the photos and video to treasure. So glad the surprise worked out.

  8. This is the cutest Christmas proposal! Read every word 😉 Congratulations!!!

  9. Melody said:

    Congratulations!!! This is the best proposal I’ve ever heard!

  10. Morgan said:

    Loooooove!!! How sweet! And omg that gif is the cutest thing ever. He’s a keeper. 🙂 And CONGRATS!!!

  11. This is one of the best blog posts EVER! Congrats again and I think Bender is definitely a keeper! He did a lot of planning and I love the fact that he bought you a dress and knew you would want to be dressed up! Awwwwww!!

  12. Raya said:

    That’s the cutest thing ever! I have to admit, my eyes teared up a little. I’m so happy for you and Bender; good luck with everything! xo

  13. Meghan said:

    congratulations! I love that you thought a completely decorated tree in the middle of the farm wasn’t out of the ordinary!


  14. CONGRATS! what an awesome day to start what promises to be the best journey of your life 🙂
    can’t wait to follow all the wedding planning!

    xo. c & v
    cake & valley

  15. Amandine said:

    So cute! Thank you for sharing that sweet moment with us!

  16. Daphne said:

    you look so elegant:) please vote “yes” in my questionaire:)

  17. Virgit said:

    what a beautiful story and everything so well done from him and your best friend so pretty hun love your dress too

  18. OMG how sweet!!! What an awesome proposal!

  19. Jalecia said:

    How sweet! Now that is a lucky guy, and you are a lucky gal! Ahhh, just too cute, haha. Congrats! ❤

  20. anu said:

    congrats! i cant believe you were actually able to capture the moment. that is amazing.

  21. Wow congratulations!!! And how awesome that you were able to have this documented. The photos are lovely.

  22. This is the cutest thing EVER! I love a good surprise and everything seemed to fall in place perfectly! Congratulations to you and your man (and your ring looks gorgeous!)
    xo Hannah

  23. Meagan said:

    How romantic!

  24. Dorien said:

    Congratulations!! That’s such a sweet story! xo

  25. CONGRATULATIONS!! What an incredible proposal! It’s like something out of a romantic movie!!

  26. Saci said:

    honestly, this is the most amazing post I have ever read! you are so lucky 🙂 congrats, dear 🙂

  27. the spot said:

    congratulations!! you are such a beauty no wonder the guy want to keep a girl like you for himself ;))

    the spot

  28. Kate said:

    wow what a lovely idea and congratulations and best wishes to both of you!:) a little bit off topic but I love your hat:)
    xx Kate

    The Style Department

  29. Lovely photos!
    Thanks for your comment on my blog!

  30. fifiphi said:

    Congratulations! You have a real good man to plan so considerately (SO awesome that he picked out a dress because he knew that you would want to look nice).

    I look forward to fashionable engagement and wedding photos 😉


  31. Oh my goodness! This is the nicest blog post I have ever read on anyone’s blog. What beautiful photos and what a beautiful beautiful story! You are both so lucky to have Eachother and such a cute couple.

    Pure romance, original and playful.

    Happy new year and a massive good luck on becoming Mrs.Bender! Haha


  32. SarahCTC said:

    This is just about the sweetest thing I have ever read on in the internet. Congrats 1000 times, Jennifer and Bender :’)

  33. Kati said:

    This is so absolutely cute!
    Thank you so much for your sweet comment!


  34. Rachel said:

    Yay yay yay! Congratulations, that is so wonderful! What an amazing, personal, perfect way for him to propose! So sweet!!

  35. This is such a great story! So adorable. Thats so great you were able to have to captured.

  36. anna said:

    what a beautiful post!!! congrats!!! i’m so excited for you!

  37. amanda said:

    pretty much the cutest thing i’ve ever read!

  38. Andrea said:

    oh man this is ADORABLE. You’re so lucky to have all this documented so you’ll always be able to look back at it. Tooooo cute!

  39. Ashley said:

    This is the sweetest thing ever! Congrats x40!

    xo Ashley

  40. I am such a sucker for wedding proposal stories, and this one is now easily one of my favorites. All the little details, the fact that he planned it all, ah. I could go on and on 🙂 Congratulations!

  41. katrina said:

    Congratulations!! This is such a sweet engagement story! Love how well it was planned and documented 😀


  42. Carrie said:

    So sweet! Your proposal was a labor of love. 🙂 Congratulations!

  43. Chioma said:

    congratulations! what a beautiful proposal! This may be the cutest one i’ve ever read, aside from mine in september 😉 enjoy every moment!

    C’s Evolution of Style

  44. Ashlee said:

    i LOVE this post…so much!

  45. Awwww this was such a fantastic proposal! I’m so happy for you!

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